Oh wait is this a date?

People are very interesting. That’s my overall belief. Yesterday I was out eating lunch at a restaurant I frequent. I overheard a conversation with a girl and guy sitting at a table right next to mine; the conversation went something like this.

(Guy pulls out his cell phone and begins texting, then says)
Guy: I’m sorry I know this is rude but it not like we’re on a date
Girl: Yeah this isn’t a date
Guy: It’s not a date
Girl: You’re right it’s not a date
Guy: You wanted it to be a date? What are you ordering? Try the calamari

Are you kidding me? This was definitely a date. He wanted it to be a date, and she wanted it to be a date. Maybe you can’t see it with just the words in this dialogue but their mannerisms hinted at their actual desires for one another. People are interesting indeed. Most of them go around faking, in essence hiding behind there egos, and false beliefs. I totally understand though because society and people have created an idea in which men feel uncomfortable revealing their true intents/feelings and women also feel the same. I'm dedicated to showing intent, and first dates are no exception. “If you rock my world today/tonight, we’re going to make magic together with a passionate kiss” plain and simple. At first women think I'm joking, they giggle, maybe out of shock or nervousness, but if the chemistry is there, sure enough a kiss would ensue. Never mind societies rules; this game is only worth playing with lots of passion and hints of rationality here and there. Even after the kiss if “we” as a possible couple never came about the girls always told me they appreciated my boldness, and honesty. Being real with myself, and women takes me places.

So now on to the real purpose of this post, I’ll first begin by addressing the guys. If you ask a woman out, just the two of you and she agrees, it’s a date! Why? Simple, women are very crafty in coming up with excuses, not to give you their number, not to give you a kiss, not to go out with you. Don’t think for a moment her craftiness has failed her, if she wasn’t at all interested in “getting to know you”, she’d come up with some seemingly rational reason why she can’t. But the fact that she has granted you the opportunity to be together means its on and popping. She’s interested, or attracted to you, and that’s all you need. Every intimate relationship between lovers began with interest/attraction. But you’ll sometimes get the woman, who agrees to hang out with you, and are not in anyway attracted to or interested in you. They want something from you, something you can give them. Maybe they are what we call gold diggers or maybe they want a job, either way they aren’t interested in you in an intimate way. Sucks for you if you got no game. (Email me if you're a guy reading this and you feel you need to get the "game" thing handled, I have a friend he does wonders.)

Now on to women, If a guy asks you out, but says it in an ambiguous way “wanna hang out sometime” he’s asking you out on a date of sorts. If this “hang out” involves just the two of you, yeah he’s interested or attracted. Maybe he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you but he’s definitely interested and attracted to you, consider yourself a prospective future girlfriend, because he’ll be qualifying you the entire time based on your actions, reactions, and the things you say. Women also test guy’s qualifications as a potential boyfriend on these ambiguous dates. As a general belief of mine, if a guy is interested or attracted to a girl, the possibility of that girl becoming a girlfriend or wife exists. No guy or girl is going to bother initiating a one on one hang out session with the opposite sex if there wasn’t some underlining interest or attraction.

So there you have it. Now you’ll know when you’re on a date.

Note: This does not include when the opposite sex invites you out to discuss their issues. When girls or guys use each other as emotional tampons it can get tricky because attraction or interest may or may not be present.